People have always had fears. That’s nothing new, but these days it seems there is a tremendous amount of fear going on. So many blogs I read are testimonials to this…people writing about their fears and how it’s affecting their lives.
I’m afraid of so many things. I’m suddenly alone in the world, having lost all of my family in the past nine years, and I’m scared. I feel like a lost child.
I have an anxiety/panic disorder and am also depressed as hell these days and I am so afraid I will never get over it. That I will never be my old self again.
Like everyone else, I worry about money. I worry about getting cancer or something equally fatal. I worry about my cats. And my friends who are having problems. I worry about what’s going to happen to our world. All of which leads, of course, to more fear.
But tonight I had to stop and ask myself…why are we all so afraid? And the answer I came up with is because we all have REAL reasons to be afraid.
The famous Roosevelt quote, “We have nothing to fear but fear itself” is thrown around like a magic cure. We just need to say this and believe it and all will be well.
Hmmmm…not so easy. If you are having horrible money troubles and can see no end in sight, you are going to be afraid. It would almost be weird if you weren’t. There is a REAL reason to be afraid. You might lose everything and end up on the streets.
If someone you love is extremely sick, they might die. Another REAL reason to have fear. So many REAL reasons and seemingly no way to ease our reaction to them. Is it even possible to not be afraid of certain things?
I have read so many self help books on this topic and there is some good advice in some of them. But generally, the tips they give don’t help much when you are in the thick of it. So what’s the answer? Is there one?
I would love for this post to be full of awesome advice on how to get rid of your fears, but it’s not something I’ve conquered, so sorry. I have no answers.
I will say, however, that the one thing that has helped me the most is reading others stories…I am not alone and that is an important reminder. Misery loves company, but not in a bad way, as far as I’m concerned. I think it’s more a case of just knowing that others are feeling the same way, which can be comforting. You aren’t crazy or strange.
The other thing that has helped me is having faith that things will be ok. It doesn’t matter where that faith comes from, just that you try hard to believe that things do work out. And they really usually do.
So to all of you who are scared, hang in there. I remind myself that you never know what’s going to happen next and that it could be something wonderful. We only think about the worst, but we have to realize that good is waiting for us too.
I wish we could all come together for a huge group hug. That we could all connect and feel supported and loved. That would help our fears. I’m hoping that my blog helps you feel supported and connected and that we can help each other in that way.
I am sending out a hug to each and every one of you. May you all have some peace from your fears.
How do you handle your fears…please tell me in the comments. I love hearing from you!