Yesterday the news was full of sad stories, from bus crashes to a school stabbing and all sorts of other sad things. Then a friend dropped by and started telling me about two of his friends who were sick and not expected to make it. By the end of the night, my heart hurt.
When I say it hurt, I mean that literally…that horrible ache that happens when you are just too sad for words. I get that often. I hurt for all the people who are going through any sort of misery or trauma. I hurt for all the animals and children and old people that are being mistreated. I hurt for the starving, ill people in the world and for everyone who is grieving. Sometimes it’s just seems too much to bear.
I also hurt when I think of everyone I have lost and how much I want them back. I remember good times with them, but sometimes this makes me hurt worse…I’ll never have them again. Memories can be a double edged sword. Happy on one side, extremely painful on the other.
What to do when your heart aches? How do you pull yourself out of that? It’s something I struggle with constantly and sometimes what I try works and sometimes it doesn’t.
I try to change my focus to something else. Sometimes all we can do is just not think about it anymore. Not easy, though…it takes a real solid distraction to get there.
I start a gratitude list in my mind. Even though things are so terrible and sad, there are things that aren’t and I start naming all of the good things in my life. This works fairly well. It reminds me that I can’t just look at the bad side of things.
I go to sites that let you donate (for free) with clicks. If I had a million dollars I would give more and actual money, but since I’m not, it’s the best I can do. As long as it’s helping, that’s all that matters.
And, last but not least, I sometimes just feel the hurt and sob. Tears are a wonderful way to release pain. A good cry can help to let out all that achiness in your heart.
What do you do to heal the hurt your heart feels? I would love to hear in the comments below.
Love to all of you and may your heart not hurt.