Dear fellow anxiety sufferers,
I will first say that I have suffered from an anxiety/panic disorder since I was a child. I’ve had years where it was controllable and then something very stressful would happen and it would return with a vengeance! You know what I mean. I am telling you this so you know I truly understand anxiety. I don’t want to read about anxiety from someone whose never had it, so I wanted all of you to know I have lived it and continue to live with it.
What I want to say to all of you is this:
Don’t be ashamed of your problem. I know I still am and it makes it worse. There are many people who don’t understand what we have and make you feel very small and embarrassed and ashamed. Don’t let them get to you. They are just too ignorant or uncaring or stupid to even try to understand. You have no reason to be ashamed.
You feel weak and cowardly sometimes. This is so not true. It takes a huge amount of strength and courage to get through each day feeling the way we do. Even on the days when we are barely functioning, when we’re in the thick of it, we still get through. Give yourself a pat on the back and credit. You are amazing.
Always remember you are not alone in this. There are many, many sites out there to connect to and let you see how many people suffer from this. In fact, it is said that anxiety is becoming an epidemic these days. More and more of us are having problems with this, so don’t feel like you’re the weird one! I remind myself of this often and it makes me feel a little better.
There is nothing wrong with you. You have an anxiety disorder and it’s not your fault. You did nothing wrong to bring this on. Some people are just prone to having this and others aren’t. The same could be said for lots of illnesses. But because it is categorized under mental health, it puts an unfair taint to it. Let’s face it, some think we’re just crazy. We are not crazy. Absolutely NOT. So don’t worry about that and ignore those that make you feel that way.
Always keep hope and faith that things will get better, because they can and will. Read about what causes this (I recommend Claire Weekes books (and yes, this is an affiliate link, which means if you click this and buy one of her books, I will get a small commission, which is how I’m trying to make ends meet. BUT, I never recommend something I don’t wholeheartedly believe in). It really helps to understand what your body is doing and why you feel the way you do. Her books explain everything in a simple, compassionate way. She also explains her method of curing yourself, which is what I’m working on now. It makes a lot of sense and is certainly worth trying. It’s not a gimmicky cure at all, just a very logical approach to it.
The main thing I want to say is…I feel for you. I wish I could reach out to everyone whose suffering from anxiety and give them a hug, just to make them feel safe and understood. That’s what we need the most. I’m hoping that my blog will be a place for us to gather and share comments and ideas, so we can feel supported. I write about grief and other things here too, but a lot of it is about anxiety. So please come and share your story with me. We need to stick together so that we feel okay about ourselves and feel hopeful. This is such a huge part of recovering…feeling understood and supported.
love and hugs to all of you,